Different research studies have reported on the BDSM tendencies growth. An Australian study showed 1 to 2 percent of adults aged 16 to 59 of both genders practiced this lifestyle. A different study estimated as high as 46 percent of adults tried this activity (where BDSM is the theme of the role-playing scenario). Avoid the catching hype-topics online and start exploring BDSM dating sites for yourself. You can quickly go from knowing nothing to learning many tidbits from open-minded and knowledge-sharing adults. They will help you explore the lifestyle at your leisure, but they never pressure you. If you get invited to a bondage night or party, it's another opportunity to show yourself and spend some fun time!
Understanding Common BDSM Types
In BDSM dating, think of the role play between two players. The general arrangement involves master and slave. But, two partners might assume domestic roles to play their game. Consider these arrangements:
- Doctor and nurse
- Police officer and offender
- Teacher and student
- Manager and a subordinate employee
- Pool man/lawn guy/or repairman and housewife
- High roller and stripper
- Rich person and escort
- Photographer and model
Remember, these are roles children often understand. What does a repairman do when he visits the housewife's home? How might she respond during the visit from the repairman to keep things hot? She might worry that her husband will get home from work soon and she must have dinner ready, and then she and her sexy visitor need to hurry up and get it on! It's all about imagination and what you would do or say to make a scenario work. Both of you must participate, or it doesn't feel real!
When planning a BDSM fantasy, stop by the costume store or adult entertainment store and get the right equipment and apparel. These little trinkets help you to have fun in your role-playing game. However, many outfits can be created at home out of your existing wardrobe.
It's important to outline the benefits of BDSM dating at once. It's better to use simple examples to make it clear. Imagine you've had a hard day at work or a long week. You want the perfect escape from your hectic life for a few hours. You want to enjoy quality time with your partner. However, your sex life is not what it was in the beginning. Some favorite sexual positions have become routine. It won't excite you that much to please a partner in his/her favorite way. Therefore, the prospect of engaging in sex is not so high. What's more, sex might not last as long or feel as great as it once did. That's when it's important to make playtime more fun! Plan a role-playing scenario in advance by sending a few flirty texts to your partner. One or both can order the clothes or equipment needed for the setting. Much of what you need is available for a low cost. Shop for new or used items safe online. Even because of such typical issues as shyness or struggles to be judged in a shop, people still believe that BDSM role playing is a kind of perversion. Many adults imagine they will like BDSM dating, but they experience problems and quickly give up on the S and M lifestyle. For example, they invest in buying handcuffs, chains, and other equipment from the sex shop and only use it a few times. They view this expense as a waste of money. Or, they might not feel comfortable being the master or the slave or negotiating or applying the rules of their private game. There are no exact rules (such as absolute rights or wrongs). Your relationship must be built on mutual respect.
Make up your own rules for any BDSM role plays and have fun with a partner. It's about knowing yourself and what turns you on and off, agreeing to test your limits behind closed doors, build good two-way communication with your partner, and enjoy your time together.
Visiting a website or buying a book on sexual positions (i.e. a Kama Sutra style text) will help you and your partner explore different options. Remember, knowledge is power! Keep every sex experiment safe. Never push a partner past his or her comfort zone and always end the game when the signal is given!
